Rings?

Wedding rings, engagement rings, friendship rings, promise rings... There's just something about a metal band as a declaration of love that is romantic. The constant reminder on your hand that someone loves you and that you love them too.

In medieval times, rings were often given as tokens of love. These were often engraved with lines of poetry,and are known as posy rings. In recent years, promise rings have become increasingly popular, especially among graduating college couples.

 But what are these a promise of? It's not quite an engagement ring, but it symbolizes a commitment deeper than just being girlfriend/boyfriend.  Long-distance couples will often wear matching rings as a reminder that they are still linked despite the distance.

I've heard 2 sides about the number of rings a girl should receive during a relationship.

1. The first ring a guy should ever buy is an engagement ring. Nothing else.
2. A girl should receive 4 rings during her relationship. One during courtship, one during the relationship, an engagement ring and then a wedding ring.

How do you feel about promise rings?

Why women have sex - all the reasons you always knew, but never realized...

My friend forwarded me this interesting article Why women have sex: According to a new book, there are 237 reasons why women have sex. And most of them have little to do with romance or pleasure.

Lessons learned -

• Marry an accountant

Then I learn why women marry accountants; it's a trade-off. "Clooneyish" men tend to be unfaithful, because men have a different genetic agenda from women – they want to impregnate lots of healthy women. Meston and Buss call them "risk-taking, womanising 'bad boys'". So, women might use sex to bag a less dazzling but more faithful mate. He will have fewer genetic benefits but more resource benefits that he will make available, because he will not run away. This explains why women marry accountants. Accountants stick around – and sometimes they have tiny little feet!

• Sex  time is a great time to make lists

We also use sex to "mate guard". I love this phrase. It is so evocative an image – I can see a man in a cage, and a woman with a spear and a bottle of baby oil. Women regularly have sex with their mates to stop them seeking it elsewhere. Mate guarding is closely related to "a sense of duty", a popular reason for sex, best expressed by the Meston and Buss interviewee who says: "Most of the time I just lie there and make lists in my head. I grunt once in a while so he knows I'm awake, and then I tell him how great it was when it's over. We are happily married."

• Your significant other only loves your symmetry

I am not sure if I feel empowered or dismayed. I thought that my lover adored me. No – it is because I have a symmetrical face. "I love you so much," he would say, if he could read his evolutionary impulses, "because you have a symmetrical face!" "Oh, how I love the smell of your compatible genes!" I would say back. "Symmetrical face!" "Compatible genes!" "Symmetrical face!" "Compatible genes!" And so we would osculate (kiss). I am really just a monkey trying to survive. I close the book.

In all seriousness, there is a very elaborate biological process that is responsible for falling in love and for wanting to mate. However, that doesn't mean it's not magical. It is one of those unique things that can't really be completely understood and reproduced. Yes, ultimately we mate for survival, but that doesn't mean we can't enjoy the process while we're at it. Plus all that biology happens unconsciously, so most women don't choose accountants because we know no one else wants them.

LDR: Separation

The joy you feel when you're reunited with your significant other in a long distance relationship is the best feeling in the world. You're both on cloud nine and so glad to be together. The time you spend is cherished deeply and spent wisely. However, this time cannot last forever and so you have to go back to being long distance again.

If you're the one staying behind, it may be harder because everything reminds you of him/her. The cafe where he/she really liked the breakfast, or the street where he/she shared a kiss. Every turn will lead you to another memory and make you miss him/her even more. It's painful, but know that soon you will be able to see each other again.

The few things you can do is get back into the rhythm of your life prior to your "vacation" together. Engage in activities such as taking classes, picking up a hobby, etc, anything to keep you occupied. In addition, you can start planning the next time you'll see each other so that you have a timeline to look forward to.

It's the little things in life - real life romance

Thanks to my friend Suzanne for this article about a real-life example of true romance.

True romance: Britain's real-life Romeo has put a rose by his wife's bedside every day for 60 years

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1207876/True-romance-Britains-real-life-Romeo-rose-wifes-bedside-day-60-years.html#ixzz0SL35rmLm

Sorry!

Major apologies for the lack of updates and my sudden disappearance. It's been a busy month and I haven't had time to write.

I'll have another post up next week, and try to maintain a once a week schedule.

Why won't men ask for directions? Part 3

A lot of people left their comments on the article Why won't men ask for directions? Part 2 And the best answer to the dilemma of how to deal with a boyfriend who's lost and refuses to ask for directions comes from my friend Louise. Her response:

Then you are taking a risk. If the people you ask point in a different direction from the one your boyfriend is taking you in, what do you do?

If you are very honest, you can weigh up "how much time will we waste being lost?" vs "how long will he be sulking over this?" and then decide whether to ask or not, but this is a bit crude.

A better way ... is to hedge your bets by surreptitiously asking for directions (e.g. by going to the toilet) - if the response is in his favour; continue as before - if it is not; whine that you want to have a look at/ go past/ admire the view from/ take a picture of/ browse W... X...Y... Z... until you get there.

And that leads us to the most important skill any girlfriend can have: the ability to get certain things done without hurting our boyfriend's egos. And Louise is right, is it really worth not being lost for an extra 15 minutes to have him sulking for the rest of the day?

Thanks Louise!

If you meet a woman like this, RUN!!

Watch the video below, and watch how a girlfriend doesn't realize her boyfriend is on vacation (despite him having told her) and flips out on him. I actually had a similar situation happen to me, but it was my friend who was flipping out.

See more funny videos and TBT Videos at Today's Big Thing.

Lessons learned (besides the one he writes):
Guys

1. Set up vacation response for incoming emails while you are away. Try checking it every few days. 
2. Put on your facebook status that you're going away.
3. Don't break up with your girlfriend by not calling her!!
   

But at least after all that email drama, you know she's not worth your time and that she's crazy.

Girls

1. Pay attention to what your boyfriend is telling you.
2. Leave your phone number when leaving a voicemail.
3. Stop freaking out if your boyfriend doesn't call you for a few days. 
4. Do not send emails or leave voicemails when you're angry!